Gef\u00fchle f\u00fchlen – ein zentrales Thema im psychologischen Beratungssetting. Was es bedeutet Gef\u00fchle zu f\u00fchlen, welche Vorteile Gef\u00fchle f\u00fchlen mit sich bringt, und wie genau es dich einem erf\u00fcllten, zufriedenen Leben n\u00e4her bringt m\u00f6chte ich im heutigen Beitrag erkl\u00e4ren.<\/p>\n
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Have you ever tried to push an inflated ball under water, e.g. in a pool? And keep it down there? I'm sure you can vividly imagine that this is no easy task. And at some point, the ball will slip out of your grasp and bounce out of the water uncontrollably. This is a nice metaphor for what happens when you try to suppress your feelings - they eventually make their way to the surface uncontrollably, and by then it has taken a lot of strength to suppress them. This is not the case when you can feel your feelings.<\/p>\n
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Feeling feelings means making space for your feelings inside yourself when they arise and allowing them to be there. Feeling and experiencing the sensations in your body. It means not wanting to prevent the experience of your feelings, not ignoring or suppressing them. Because these feelings usually have important messages for you. It doesn't mean accepting unpleasant feelings without looking at whether something can be done about your initial situation. It also doesn't mean acting out your feelings, for example behaving aggressively because you feel angry.<\/p>\n
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Our emotions and feelings are largely generated by sensory input that reach the brain from muscles and organs in the body. Feelings are therefore directly linked to your needs. Our feelings can also provide information about who or what is important to you. Or what you could change in your life. The stronger the feelings, the more important the thing they are linked to. Looking away from them prevents you from recognizing and fulfilling your needs, actively shaping your life and making smart decisions.<\/p>\n
For example, if you prefer to distract yourself with a lot of work instead of looking at certain feelings and their triggers, it will be more difficult to correctly categorise the negative consequences of an important unfulfilled need such as increasing dissatisfaction. Feeling feelings is therefore the way to actively shape your own life. Sometimes your feelings don't contain anything that can be turned into action. Then it is helpful to show yourself compassion, just as you would show a beloved friend.<\/p>\n
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Wenn wir uns von unseren Gef\u00fchlen und k\u00f6rperlichen Eindr\u00fccken abwenden, hilft uns das, schmerzhafte Gef\u00fchle zu vermeiden, schneidet uns aber auch von angenehmen Emotionen und Gef\u00fchlen ab.
Wenn du lernst, dich wieder mit deinem K\u00f6rper une Gef\u00fchlen zu verbinden, erh\u00e4ltst du Zugang zu allen Gef\u00fchlen des Lebens – sowohl zu schmerzhaften als auch zu angenehmen. So kannst du sowohl Vergn\u00fcgen und Freude als auch Schmerz erfahren.<\/p>\n
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As you learn to (re)connect with your body and feel your emotions, you will likely experience a sense of vitality, aliveness and resurgence.<\/p>\n
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The less aware you are of your emotions, the less self-control you have. So you have less control over your actions, over what you say and do and how you react. Why is that? Because you are not aware of your feelings and emotions and they control you unconsciously, a bit like a marionette being controlled by a puppeteer.<\/p>\n
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Es gibt einen direkten Zusammenhang zwischen Erfolg im Leben und emotionaler Intelligenz. Wenn wir in fast allen Bereichen des Lebens erfolgreicher sein wollen – als Eltern oder Partner, im Beruf oder beim „Spielen“ -, dann werden wir umso eher Erfolg haben, je h\u00f6her unsere emotionale Intelligenz ist.
Emotional intelligence means being aware of your emotions, recognizing how they influence your own behavior and learning how to deal with them more effectively.
But if you are cut off from your body and your feelings, it makes it almost impossible to improve your emotional intelligence. And if you can't improve your emotional intelligence, your success in life will be impaired.<\/p>\n
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Avoiding feelings often manifests itself in behaviors that take you further away from the life you actually want to lead. Many mental disorders can be cited as examples here: Anxiety disorders, for example - here clients do not want to feel the emotion of anxiety, and so avoid all situations that could trigger anxiety. This often significantly impairs their quality of life.<\/p>\n
But there are also examples that even more people experience themselves: e.g. a feeling of unwillingness to do that round of sport that would do you good, or the upcoming tax return. Here it is important to first recognize the feeling, name it and make space for it so that you can then do what is important to you and bring you closer to the life you want.<\/p>\n
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Another point is the way you relate to your feelings. These are so-called meta-emotions, the attitudes you have towards your feelings. These can become problematic if you evaluate certain feelings as a problem. This leads to you having negative feelings about your emotions, which makes them bigger and therefore take up more space in your life than is actually necessary. This aspect is explained well in this video:<\/p>\n